pterribledinosaurdrawings:

pterribledinosaurdrawings:

dragonanarchist1155:

pterribledinosaurdrawings:

psychosociogentleman-deactivate:

pterribledinosaurdrawings:

happy ides of March

yo why is this on my dash its august

Yeah, why is this getting notes? It’s August!

It’s knife day

Oh

once again this has been getting notes for the past few days, and it’s only knife day morning today!

byenoonmoons:

ryebreadgf:

Had to include this tags cause i also catched people not getting the issues and this person explained it best

callisteios:

hiiiii, does anyone want to become evil with me?

figgldygrak:

t4t-more-like-knowing-my-worth:

was talking to my gf about my fear of dying young for being trans and my mom putting my deadname on my gravestone, and she said “i hope that never happens, but if it does, i will carve your name into your grave myself if i have to.” and i think theres something extremely raw about that sentiment and trans community in general. you can kill only our bodies, but you cant kill transsexuality

APPOINT SOMEONE ELSE AS YOUR NEXT OF KIN

If you are over 18 and do not want your parents to have control over your body after you die or if you go into a coma or something, take that power away from them. They are your automatic next of kin unless you get married which is why they have control over those things. But getting married isn’t the only way to change that, an advanced directive can do the same. This video has more information

langernameohnebedeutung:

Going to add a maybe controversial thing but:

Women who are attracted to men but also don’t like penetrative sex - and I’m definitely + explicitly + it’s very much the point including vaginal penetrative sex here - are also perfectly within their rights to have that boundary and to have it respected.

Straight or bisexual women, cis or trans women, doesn’t matter - I feel like womanhood is often equated with enjoying penetration. But it’s not. Your identity doesn’t dictate what you like sexually. And what you like sexually doesn’t dictate your identity.

And I think especially for women who are attracted to men, enjoying penetrative sex is considered such a must that many of us don’t even question it - to the point that a) not wanting it is considered a medical issue by itself and b) with many medical complications or conditions or even psychological reasons that someone might find vaginal penetration painful, the first concern is often not even to fix the underlying issue or even to make that kind of sex pleasurable - but to make her “functional” for her partner again. (Prized example: The husband-stitch. Generally, I hear so often from women whose partners got impatient with their recovery after they gave birth and who felt pressured to have vaginal sex before they felt like it.)

So I just want to say:

Womanhood does not equal enjoying penetration.

Being AFAB doesn’t equal enjoying penetration.

Being attracted to men doesn’t equal enjoying penetration.

What you enjoy sexually is not a matter of your identity. It’s only a matter of what you enjoy and what you and your partner(s) genuinely want to do.

And actually, yes, this specifically goes out to heterosexual cis women in particular: Even if you never ever ever want to have vaginal penetrative sex - that’s perfectly fine. You are perfectly within your rights to have that boundary. And no man has any right to force you. And calling you “uptight” or “vanilla” or “weird” or “but you own a dildo” or “It’ll be good with me, I swear!” - that’s a way of forcing you. He has two options a) accept your boundary and find a different way to have sex b) accept your boundary and go home.

If there is an underlying medical issue like cysts or if you have vaginismus that diminishes your quality of life - of course I recommend seeing a doctor. And if you have experienced trauma, I recommend therapy. All of which should be focussed on helping you with the things that you deem important - and not what your partner or a potential partner deems important.

But if you simply just don’t want to have penetrative sex - then don’t. Nothing is wrong with you. No one has any right to force you.

We often say “don’t do anal if you don’t want to”, “don’t do oral if you don’t want to” - and those are very, very true! But I feel like we don’t say “don’t do vaginal if you don’t want to” or “don’t have penetrative sex at all if you don’t want to” often enough to women - because it’s such an expectation that everyone would enjoy it.

And also, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Sometimes, trauma is a reason - but if you have experienced trauma, you’re not obligated to tell your partner the details of it to justify not wanting to have that kind of sex. “No” is a full sentence. Sometimes the fear of pregnancy or contraception failing is a reason - and that’s also to be respected.

And if you don’t have any reason related to trauma or a medical condition - you’re still perfectly within your rights to have that boundary respected. Sex is supposed to feel good for both partners involved. And any partner who doesn’t care about your boundaries or pressures you - is for the streets. Gotta go. Is an ex. Shoo. Out. Over.

stars-bean:

The Princess Bride (1987) dir. Rob Reiner

cricketcat9:

thoughtportal:

hip stretches

DO THEM. Seriously, just try. If I can do it at 73, so can you (at least, most of you). 💪🏼

thebobbu:

the-original-sineater:

dduane:

monitor-offist:

theculturedmarxist:

ALT

>First, we’ve discovered that about a quarter of all the internet connection in or out of the house were ad related. In a few hours, that’s about 10,000 out of 40,000 processed.

>We also discovered that every link on Twitter was blocked. This was solved by whitelisting the https://t.co domain.

>Once out browsing the Web, everything is loading pretty much instantly. It turns out most of that Page Loading malarkey we’ve been accustomed to is related to sites running auctions to sell Ad space to show you before the page loads. All gone now.

>We then found that the Samsung TV (which I really like) is very fond of yapping all about itself to Samsung HQ. All stopped now. No sign of any breakages in its function, so I’m happy enough with that.

>The primary source of distress came from the habitual Lemmings player in the house, who found they could no longer watch ads to build up their in-app gold. A workaround is being considered for this.

>The next ambition is to advance the Ad blocking so that it seamlessly removed YouTube Ads. This is the subject of ongoing research, and tinkering continues. All in all, a very successful experiment.

>Certainly this exceeds my equivalent childhood project of disassembling and assembling our rotary dial telephone. A project whose only utility was finding out how to make the phone ring when nobody was calling.

ALT

>Update: All4 on the telly appears not to have any ads any more. Goodbye Arnold Clarke!

ALT

>Lemmings problem now solved.

>Can confirm, after small tests, that RTÉ Player ads are now gone and the player on the phone is now just delivering swift, ad free streams at first click.

>Some queries along the lines of “Are you not stealing the internet?” Firstly, this is my network, so I may set it up as I please (or, you know, my son can do it and I can give him a stupid thumbs up in response). But there is a wider question, based on the ads=internet model.

>I’m afraid I passed the You Wouldn’t Download A Car point back when I first installed ad-blocking plug-ins on a browser. But consider my chatty TV. Individual consumer choice is not the method of addressing pervasive commercial surveillance.

>Should I feel morally obliged not to mute the TV when the ads come on? No, this is a standing tension- a clash of interests. But I think my interest in my family not being under intrusive or covert surveillance at home is superior to the ad company’s wish to profile them.

ALT

ALT

>Aside: 24 hours of Pi Hole stats suggests that Samsung TVs are very chatty. 14,170 chats a day.

>YouTube blocking seems difficult, as the ads usually come from the same domain as the videos. Haven’t tried it, but all of the content can also be delivered from a no-cookies version of the YouTube domain, which doesn’t have the ads. I have asked my son to poke at that idea.

ALT

fastest reblog in the west

Yeppers. :)

reblogging for study later AND to spread the info.

Seriously, get and run PiHole if you can. It changes your internet experience so much for the better. I get shocked when I visit a website when I’m someone else’s network, by just how many ads the internet is flooded with now. Take back control.

marghen:

ALT

ALT

ALT

“I was burning up a fever/ I didn’t care much how long I lived / but I swear I thought I dreamed her / she never asked me once about the wrong I did.”

Work Song, Hozier

meckamecha:

cinna-bunnie:

meckamecha:

I got a laptop with Windows 11 for an IT course so I can get certified, and doing the first time device set-up for it made me want to commit unspeakable violence

Windows 11 should not exist, no one should use it for any reason, it puts ads in the file explorer and has made it so file searches are also web searches and this cannot be turned off except through registry editing. Whoever is responsible for those decisions should be killed, full stop.

Switch to linux, it’s free and it’s good.

u r absolutely right I have SO many complaints about Windows omg.

For anyone who’d like to follow along, I’m gonna share how to get around those things with group policies bc they’re more user friendly and descriptive than registry editor imo :3 I’ll also show how to get around needing a Microsoft account to get setup.

For the Device Setup

“OOBE” stands for Out Of Box Experience which is what that setup workflow is. But it also happens to be a folder with a little program in it that’ll let you skip connecting to the internet; this makes it so you don’t have to sign up with a Microsoft account and can just use a normal local one instead. And it already comes preinstalled! Here’s how you get to it:

1. Hold Shift + F10, or Shift + Fn + F10 depending on your keyboard.
2. Click inside the window that pops up, type the following and press enter afterwards to run it: OOBE\BypassNRO
3. I believe it should restart your computer automatically, but if not then restart your computer or type: shutdown /r /t 0 /f

Now when you’re brought back to the setup workflow, the page where you connect to the internet will have a new button on it that lets you say you don’t have internet. Clicking that and proceeding through the rest of the setup lets you get around the Microsoft account thing.

Group Policies

You don’t have to know much about them, these are just a bunch of specific settings for what your computer can or can’t do that lets you decide how it works in different ways.

I’m gonna show you how to turn off the recommendations and internet stuff basically. For now bring up search and type gpedit, pick this

It’ll open up to Local Group Policy Editor and we can get started :3c

Start Recommendations

In the side menu, go to User Configuration > Administrative Templates > Start Menu and Taskbar. Click on Settings to sort them with all the “Turn off” ones bumped to the top.

Here’s what you should set:

• Turn off user tracking: enabled
• Turn off feature advertisement balloon notifications: enabled
• Remove Recommended section from Start Menu: enabled
• Remove Personalized Website Recommendations from the Recommended section in the Start Menu: enabled
• Do not search Internet: enabled

Windows Spotlight

Back in the side menu, go down to Windows Components > Cloud Content

• Turn off all Windows spotlight features: enabled
• Do not use diagnostic data for tailored experiences: enabled

Cortana

In the side menu, this one’s back at the top under Computer Configuration. You’re gonna want to go to Computer Configuration > Administrative Templates > Windows Components > Search

• Allow Cortana: disabled
• Don’t search the web or display web results in Search: enabled

News and Interests

In the side menu go to Computer Configuration > Administrative Templates > Windows Components > News and interests.

• Enable news and interests on the taskbar: disabled

Microsoft Account Login Nudges

When you don’t use a Microsoft account they’ll nudge you repeatedly to sign in so you can “get the most out of your experience” *gag*. The group policy for turning that off has a note that suggests it might not work with Windows 11 though (implicitly), so you can close the group policy editor window now and for this last one let’s just open up the regular settings.

Go to System > Notifications > Additional settings, then uncheck all the boxes. And there ya go! (✿◠‿◠)ﾉ u are done.

Group policies are kind of a rabbit hole so while there is a lot more you could change or read into, for your own sanity’s sake I would advise against it and say call it a day lol

This is all extremely good information, thank you very much for the addition!

legsdemandias:

legsdemandias:

“this thing was used to groom me therefore it should never exist”

I mean this in the most delicate and brutal way possible: this isn’t about you, nothing is about you actually 

Again, I mean this in the most delicate and brutal way possible: you were groomed by someone using their power to limit your access to information. This person preyed on you and your lack of knowledge to control you. 

It’ll always hurt that that thing exists out there. It’ll probably always be a trigger, but like………this isn’t about you. Nothing is about you. I’m sorry it hurts, I’m sorry you see it, I’m sorry. It’s not about you. 

bemusedlybespectacled:

bemusedlybespectacled:

butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway:

autogynocrat:

doberbutts:

doberbutts:

Anyway with anti-sodomy laws back on the discussion table I’m going to repeat that you can personally be squicked out by the consensual sex someone else has, but saying that their consensual sex between willing, active, adult participants should be illegal and is indicative of some sort of moral failing is L I T E R A L L Y a major facet in extreme homophobia and absolutely has gotten people killed.

You don’t have to like their business but as long as everyone involved in the encounter is saying yes, it’s also really not your business.

This is the precident you are helping further by digging your heels in and saying ‘but I think it’s gross and makes them bad people’. This is what happened last time that was the reasoning for law, and what is being threatened to happen again.

“but Jaz, how would they enforce it”

Easily.

People would report you to the police for any hint of it. Whether real or imagined. You held hands with someone of the same sex. Someone started a rumor that they saw you kissing. You bought a sex toy and the vendor automatically reported you. You clicked a web page or picked up a magazine that had a different suspected deviant on it and the shop owner or internet service provider automatically reported you. You had certain mannerisms. You hung out to much with a specific friend. You seemed too close to a family member. Literally anything.

In some cases people would literally peep through windows, listen at the door, even wait across the street for your guest to come over and then call the police to kick the door down and catch the two of you in the act.

Never forget that the Stonewall riot was started by one such raid where police stormed a gay bar looking to arrest as many “sodomy” and “public indecency” suspects as possible.

That’s how. By encouraging people to barge into other people’s private, consensual sex lives and make reports to the authorities. By encouraging people to lay traps so unsuspecting gay people could stumble into them. By encouraging people to stalk and harass anyone who showed any sign of 'being a pervert’ in the name of 'protecting neighborhoods from predators’. By weaponizing the real concern for predatory behavior against people who were engaging in consensual intimacy in a way they happened to not like.

By doing exactly what I’ve been continuously saying is bad behavior that has gotten countless LGBT people jailed and killed.

We’re not turning this against our own community. Homophobes and transphobes have already made it plenty clear they don’t care how good or respectable we are, they just want us all dead.

“how would they enforce it”

well in 2012 a guy named snowden let us know they’re basically wiretapping us at all times and have gigantic collections of all our metadata and we have been living in a nice little surveillance state since 2001’s patriot act

My uncle used to hang out in those public parks after dark where gay men would solicit sex - from each other, from sex workers, and (when they were particularly unlucky) from undercover cops.

Having sex with a partner in your home was dangerous because it was too identifiable. Your neighbors, your landlord, your family, your friends, any one of them could happen to notice if you brought a boyfriend or a one night stand home, and this was before we had any right to privacy in our homes.

So anonymous sex in the park was SAFER for gay men. As long as you didn’t draw the short stick and snag a cop. A cop who would, just as they often do today with sex workers, happily have sex with you before cuffing you, walking you into the station through every reporter in town, and splashing your name and face across the morning paper with a sodomy charge. Then your life was effectively over. And they would leverage that to make you tell them names, give up others to have their lives ruined in the hopes of salvaging what was left of your own.

My uncle came a little too close one day, nearly got caught up in a raid at the park he was at with some friends. He illustrated children’s books for a living. If he was caught he would never work again. So he fled. Borrowed some money from my mother and *fled the country*. He only came back once a year, long enough to fulfill visa requirements. He only came back with his boyfriend in 2005 when my mother assured him that things were safer.

If the enforcement of these laws could ruin lives like that back then, how badly do you think it could go for us in the era of unprecedented near total surveillance? Our memories need to be long enough to remember that these laws and the methods used to enforce them are not hypothetical. They have already happened and ARE already happening. There is precedent, there are known mechanisms, and there are known ways to gum up the works too.

Extremely unfriendly reminder that sodomy laws – some of which were explicitly only about gay sex, and some of which criminalized all non-procreative sex including by straight people – were in full effect in fourteen states until Lawrence vs. Texas, which was decided in 2003.

Just to be clear about that: Shrek, The Bourne Identity, both Atlantis Disney movies, and anyone on this website old enough to buy alcohol are all older than blowjobs being legal in all of the United States.

#I’m sorry to be stupid but who is talking about bringing back anti sodomy laws…?#I just looked it up to see if there was recent news about it but I can’t find anything very recent implying that they’re about to bring#those laws back (or more aptly strike down that one SC ruling from 2003?)

Dobbs vs. Jackson Women’s Health Organization (the Supreme Court ruling from last year that overturned Roe v. Wade) has a concurrence by Clarence Thomas that basically says “by the way, we should apply this same reasoning to Obergefell, Lawrence, and Griswold” (which struck down bans on same-sex marriage, sodomy, and the use of contraceptives, respectively). this isn’t just an idle comment - it’s telegraphing to the conservative base that if they can get cases challenging those rulings to the Supreme Court fast enough, they will be entertained and they will definitely have at least one vote in their favor.

if a Supreme Court case invalidates a law, that doesn’t erase it; it just means it can’t be enforced. we saw this with abortion laws: states passed a bunch of laws that were basically “we know this isn’t going to be in effect now, but if we ever get rid of Roe, then they will be” that took effect immediately after Dobbs. there are a lot of sodomy laws that are still on the books (again, because the case is only 20 years old) that would immediately take effect if Lawrence got overturned.

teaboot:

caparrucia:

kevinbparry:

I demonstrate the 10 types of magic ✨

Chocolate guy this, chocolate guy that.

WHEN IS TUMBLR GOING TO JOIN ME IN COLLECTIVELY LOSING OUR SHIT OVER STOP-MO GUY?

I’VE BEEN FOLLOWING STOP-MO GUY FOR YEARS AND I CONTINUE TO SCREAM AT THE CASUAL DISREGARD OF REALITY.

BASTARD

blatantescapism:

tiger-in-the-flightdeck:

marinella-ela:

There’s something so deeply calming about watching megafauna prance and gambol about like they’re little lambs

Bison pronking is already so magical, and then the double rainbow and the happy birdsong just put it way over the top

asteroidtroglodyte:

asteroidtroglodyte:

Move aside swagless boutta get a new Wizard’s Staff that comes loaded with spells like “open locked doors” and “dismantle car”

You pass peer review